Recognising Anxiety in Children: What Parents Should Know

Worry is a normal part of childhood. Most children feel nervous before a big test, starting a new school, or trying something for the first time. But when worry becomes intense, frequent, or starts to interfere with daily life, it may be a sign of anxiety. Recognising anxiety early is important - it allows children to get the support they need before it grows into something more overwhelming.

Anxiety in children doesn’t always look the way we expect. Sometimes it shows up as physical complaints - stomach aches, headaches, or difficulty sleeping - especially before school or social activities. Other times, it may appear as irritability, clinginess, or meltdowns that don’t seem to “fit” the situation. Because children don’t always have the words to explain their fears, anxiety often shows itself through behaviour.

It’s also important to remember that anxious children are not “being difficult.” Avoidance, tears, or anger are often signs that a situation feels genuinely overwhelming to them. When parents approach these reactions with patience and empathy, children feel safer - and this security is the first step toward managing their anxiety more effectively.

Practical support can make a big difference. Predictable routines, clear expectations, and gentle encouragement to face fears in manageable steps can help reduce anxiety over time. Simple calming strategies such as deep breathing, visualisation, or grounding techniques give children tools to use when worries feel too big.

Parents don’t have to solve anxiety alone. Talking with teachers, school counsellors, or a mental health professional can provide extra strategies and reassurance. With understanding and support, children can learn that anxiety is something they can manage, not something that controls them.

Recognising the signs is the first step. By noticing changes early and responding with compassion, parents can help their child build confidence, resilience, and a healthier relationship with their emotions.